I never write about money (because it’s a stupid and cruel concept), except for the casual arrogant remark about not having more of it to indulge in stuff I like. Like traveling. Drinking champagne and eating fine foods. I clearly have enough to get by just fine. My life is wonderfully easy in that sense. I’ve never had a single cell in my body for saving money. I’ve always been an oatmeal for dinner – wine at restaurants with friends kind of person, because that gives me more pleasure! There is nothing wrong with that. That would be my choice, at that time.
The money I’ve earned I’ve always spent. Shared, never invested for later. I think it’s pretty clear I’m a living-in-the-present type of woman. In my mind I’m prepared for that tomorrow may never come. For any of us! So I make the most of it, what makes me happy. Today. When I have money, I spend it. When I don’t, I do stuff that’s for free. As long as I have my health, a place to stay and food to nourish my body money is just additional. Icing on the cake that is life. It might be a sad horrible cake, or a big juicy one, but that’s what we have to work with.
I hate money. I don’t care about money. Measuring us in the most senseless way where more gets more -less gets less. It’s a disgusting system we’ve created. I work harder than my husband (obviously he does too and worked bloody hard to get there) yet just texted him to send me bus-fare. But it’s choices, circumstances, opportunities and a bit of destiny. And for all the children born in horrible circumstances, for all the people that for some reason was robbed from whatever they had (be it freedom or possessions), that’s just horrible. Again money is measuring us in the most senseless ways. And to be blamed on the system that allows this to happen. So many assholes with money. So many good people without. What if money was given according to how good people we are. How kind and selfless we are.. I don’t like the way we do things. But that doesn’t mean we get to shame each other. We’re allowed to eat the juicy cake when presented to us. Maybe we’ve collected the ingredients over a long period of time through hard work, dedication and pain. Maybe it was given to us on a silver platter. We must all try to enjoy and appreciate it nevertheless without guilt.
We’re not lucky or unlucky. We just are in my opinion. Born into the circumstances we are. All we’re ever able to is to see things from our own perspective. We can educate ourself and we definitely should help and share when we have the ability to. All we can do is try to get by and enjoy life in any way we’re able to. And no-one ever, I’ve never come across such an individual, has “it all”.
I often have sleepless nights and the feeling of guilt because I can’t support myself alone in Norway with what I’m earning. At all. But I have it “easy”. My pride is always taking up way too much of my energy than necessary. But I have the opportunity to do what I do and live my life as I do. I was supposed to meet my husband, we share everything and all we wish for each other is a richer, more fulfilling life. That’s how I am able to do what I do for a living. It is what it is. Call me lucky, I call it a string of choices and destiny. I’m not going to apologize for that, neither should you.
In my opinion.
I probably wrote a lot of things others may find ignorant in this post that you can call me out on. Because you have a different point of view than I do. And that’s ok. But as long as there’s cake I’ll eat it.
Hello I just wanted to say this that I somewhat agree with what you said here and your last post. We’re all in this together and been from LA I see many things but I’ve learned to appreaciate life and enjoy things but i truly xouldnt have done it without your little sis help she made me focus #shoutout
That’s so nice, that you get something out of her music <3 We are all in this together, I agree!
Success comes to those who dedicate everything to their passion in life. To be successful, it is also very important to be humble and never let fame or money travel to your head. Quote – A. R. Rahman.
Unfortunately these days it appears money rules the world, the haves and the have nots.
Hi, Viktoria.
This comment makes you look like an irresponsible person.
You got married although you can’t support yourself?
And you were supposed to meet your husband? I highly doubt that. Would you be married to him if he couldn’t support the both of you? Probably not.
You basically admitted that you are a freeloader and that’s it.
And now you are thinking about getting pregnant? Well, yeah, you will have a life meal ticket, well-thought.
I was going to throw this comment in the trash, but this is way too funny. Just by writing about my own careless and ambivalent relationship to money, you (who the fuck are you?) manage to conclude that I would bring a child into this world for the sake of money? And, oh my god this is rich, how DARE I get married without earning enough to buy my own house?! You got me. Total freeloading gold-digging bitch from the North, that’s me. (Please don’t tell my husband, this is between you and me) Can’t wait to divorce him and get half.
I rest my case right there. I bow to thee and bid you a good night. Whoever you are. I don’t really care.
yeah, im definitely with you !
to short it up a little; we can see that in europe, not to mention from other lands, more and more people can’t live with the money they earn from work, thats a structurale problem and it will grow heavy in the next years as a result of artificial intelligence, robotik and the neoliberal doktrin itself. so it will destabilze sociaties, it already does !
but there is ans answer: Unconditional basic income !
it is not the panacea for all the problems we have in the world, but its a key for giving people a future in postmodern world were people see more ans more that there must be a differnt kind of being in there lives and that is the native idea of politics.
In norway we have a pretty good system actually, minimum wage and unemployment benefits. In my particular case it’s more of a choice, you know? Entrepreneur and all. I could definitely get any kind of job here and get by just fine. Ish. Very different from the us, uk or elsewhere! Which is the only system that makes sense, right? I mean, people having to work two, three jobs? I get that we don’t have to have money for a nice apartment or eating out or anything, but being able to get by should be within reach when working full-time. Where are you from?
im from germany 😉 …but right, i think the skandinavian states are the most progressive states in the world, high taxes but you know why if you are in trouble. i saw a dokumentary few years ago and i wish we had the same state of mind in germany, its not only in a social way, the reaction to breivik was exemplary. we had from an oeconomic view the same story in germany with “rheinischer kapitalismus” like the skandinavian states till the 70ies and then step by step the neoliberal agenda here starts to change the way of the societys . you can’t see it on the first view, but when you deal with the deeper considerations, you see how the socialsystem got damaged over time by the neoliberals. the middle class impoverish and the right ones become stronger, you can see that in nearby whole europe.
i agree england is the outrider when it come to see what are the results of neoliberal politics… the brexit is an indirect reaktion to this and it will be devastating for england but that’s another talk…
i think we are now at the point ((of no return)from climate change point of view) to shape the future, and we have to do this together, cause there are forces that do this all the time with more and more power and they do it not in a democratic way cause you can’t structure a society like a company… growth can not be infinite
https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2016/01/the-fourth-industrial-revolution-what-it-means-and-how-to-respond/
… it does not get boring 😉
…apropos climate change; is it possible that you have exceptionally good weather this days, cause i think we got your’ s 50.000 shades of grey ?! 😉
Probably!! It never lasts though, but wow are we enjoying it! 😀
well done ! 🙂 it must feel like having a new life, if i know correctly you have average the most rainy days in whole europe right …and i already miss the sun ?!
Correct! Always rains. Especially Bergen.! But still sunny, so 😀
Oh god I have the same relationship with money. I hate it, I don’t want it, I don’t want to have to play the game to acquire it! It’s so frustrating to me lately because I never really had a purpose in life, I’m getting closer and closer to understanding who I am and what I want and money is getting in the way.
I have a simple job, it’s easy, it’s convenient, I like the people I work with. For a while I was content with my simple life. Sometimes people would ask the dreaded question ‘What do you do?’ I work in retail. Poor and unskilled, you get judged. I had a roof over my head, I was fed and watered. I could afford the odd treat. It was fine.
What I didn’t realise for a long time was that I’d given up, and I’d shut down. It was Aurora’s music, and her words, in interviews or the little documentaries (the first time I really saw you Viktoria, was in Nothing is Eternal. I didn’t know that thin, pretty girl would be so complicated!) I felt the same way and that touched something in me I’d lost.
I’ve never been selfish, nor all that selfless, but I’ll gladly share what I have or give to those worse off than me. But I have very little expendable income. Now I feel like I want to throw myself into music, I’ve been writing poetry, I may even draw or paint like I used to when I was child. Even just go around and see beautiful places and meet inspirational people.
I would love to visit Bergen, meet yourself and the little one, even Miranda (who I know very little about except for she listens to Tool, that makes us friends surely!) But so many things I want to do I can’t afford. I’m going to have get a new job, I’ll probably hate it, it’ll probably eat more of my time and I’ll be in a worse position to just explore the things I want to.
So many obstacles seem to evaporate just because you have cash. I’m not interested, but I have to work at getting more just to be able to leave the house and get about, do things, meet people (buy a Hurdy Gurdy!). So many people who never even had to consider its worth, its never been struggle, but it’s a double edged sword. Ironic that those who know its value are often the ones without.
I love everything about this James <3
Really is the cliché isn't it? Finding out how to make a living doing what you love? You'll never work a day in your life, bra bla. Call me a pessimist, but regardless of what I'm doing; if there's a boss, a deadline and a pressure to be a certain place doing certain things at certain times.. I'm gonna get tired of it. Haha. I really feel you should have all the money in the world James!
I’d only give it all away if I did Viktoria. 🙂
I’m sure us free spirits will find a way in time.
🙂
Only one honeymoon?! We’ve just waited! Actually going to see an Audi s5 Sportback today, having a reeeeally good feeling about it!
I hear red ones go faster 🙂
We have discussed this before. How people bring their own story in when they get new information.
These two past posts are like this. People interpret your words to match their reality. That is one of the sideeffects on blogging. Try to read their story out of their replys instead of attacking. Be the bigger one with the open mind and let that show in your replys. Attacking back is not the answer.
I get that, Huldre. I not claiming to have the answer though. I’m not the bigger person. I have the right not to be that, I feel that’s ok.
Its youre blog, post what you want, comment what you want, feel whatever you want! It baffled me that people can make such quick judgements. I wish that there were more people who can relate and have compassion and understanding instead of having immediate negative feedback based on their own opinions. Sigh. Viktoria you do whatever you feel like! Its most important that you feel okay and happy.
Alyssa, you’re so sweet. Kisses and hugs to you <3
I will, and always think we're entitled to all our emotions. On the other hand I totally get that a lot of people disagree or don't get what I'm saying. At all! I'm merely writing my thoughts. The only thing that bugs me is the humor they miss. I think I'm so funny! haha! Obviously I'm not gonna get a baby because I'm a bit bored..! I laughed. And I even wrote that. That I laughed at my petty problems. Anyway.. the ones who see it will hopefully laugh with me! I'm happy you are one of them 🙂
PLUS! We are all allowed to whine! If something feels big or painful to you, I'm all for it! I will take you seriously. You dump those issues on me! Never to small a problem to be taken serious. That's could be one of the various reasons, I think, so many people isolate end up self-harming. To cope with the emotions. And THAT'S why I love to write, about anything! We should talk <3
Have a great weekend Alyssa! I'm here for you!! whatever that might mean!
ahh so nice of you to say.
all your thoughts are wonderful, i look forward to reading your blogs every time you post! and enjoy your humor as well. (:
I am here for you too ♥
Another question that came to mijnd while reading this is why do the poor act like their rich and the rich act like their poor and never tip or spend a lot 🤔 what do u think?
Maybe because a little feels like a lot to the poorer and the rich didn’t get that way by letting money go? 😉
They do? That’s odd.. Maybe because those with less know how much a small amount of money can mean?
Ugh i agree SO MUCH with everything youve said here! I love reading about your viewpoints on things #preach
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Apparently in the future we might be moving towards a shared economy / collaborative consumption, so maybe money may come to have less effect on our identity, and people will be more creative in ways to get the experiences they want and the things they want, not just because of its price tag and the associated ‘lifestyle message/status/clique’ that comes with it, but rather for its own authentic value which adds to one’s life, health and happiness included.
Anyway, I really do appreciate your thoughts on money. You seem to have nicely picked up how money comes with circumstances and it’s totally okay, if not necessary, to enjoy your circumstances because life is too short, and a lot of people have struggled to bring you to the point where you are in your life right now (e.g. parents, yourself, ancestors, historical figures etc.) and so you deserve to enjoy the moment for your sake and others. No one should be ashamed about the process of living, for any of the background stuff that happens in life (e.g. little money), or for any of the carefully presented limelight projects. Each moment is unique to you, yet maybe also a little relatable to others. Human life is messy and complicated, and that is what makes us humans. It’s interesting, it’s invigorating. At the end of the day, we will always be intricately woven into each other’s lives one way or another, and that is the art of life we should accept and love to see.
The only thing that should matter in life I think, is if someone took pictures of your life secretly and documented it, what would they catch you doing? As long as it looks like you’re participating in life, trying to be kind and considerate in living your life consciously for yourself and others, that is all that matters.
Look around you, in nature, life is all about growth. The only difference for humans is that it’s about conscious growth instead. Be happy, your consciousness is a precious power, you get to choose what to grow into. It allows you to observe things carefully, and that may mean you have lots of emotions that come with it, bad and good, but that is a very cool skill to possess even though you may not have signed up for it. It was supposed to be, consciousness is a wonderful gift that was handed to you. You can use it to see pain and feel the need to comfort, you can use it to see beauty and be inspired to take action/ love / be grateful / be peaceful, you can use it to see reality which lets you measure how much more work you need to do to make life even more beautiful / peaceful for everyone, including you. A little less chaos a day, or a little bit more confidence in handling it is what matters. And this type of work becomes one of the biggest sources of happiness, amidst some play, which you can enjoy together with everyone. In the end, consciousness lets you celebrate everyone, and every little milestone.
I shall stop here, because I was procrastinating as a uni student, and now I really should get back to revising for my exam tomorrow. I really do wish I was in your position right now, finally working out of my own freedom on the projects I want to. However, I will try to take my own advice and enjoy these little frustrating moments in life, and just smile that I’m breathing. I will get to where I need to be.
We all should try to enjoy what is handed to us, that’s all we have to work with. I’m really trying to enjoy everything I can! I hope everyone else is able to. Unfortunately creative work is always a gamble, which I understand is hard. And it’s hard for everyone! I’m just happy I’m able to. Wish you all the best of getting to the point you wish to be!! I hated being a student. Even though when you’re done the real work starts. But it’s possible! I smile back at you when you’re smiling to the world 🙂
I like the idea of getting money for good deeds. I think we would all have the same amount, charity being permitted. Really good, exceptional people, wouldn’t allow themselves to be wealthy, I imagine. They would recieve the most and the world would be richer for it…me likes to think 🙂 pure fantasy though. We all just want to be happy some of the time but money will never make us happy all of time. It sure helps though. Love hate relationships, who’d have’m eh
Real love hate, so true! Studies has shown that over a certain point made a year it doesn’t affect your happiness! Limit including enough to be safe, cover health and well-being, bit of traveling, not worrying etc. I think it was around $120 000 – $200 000. So one can only wish the really good people wouldn’t indulge in unnecessary stuff. I’d like to think I wouldn’t.